At 16, you’re just halfway through getting a degree. Don’t you think it’s a bit early for both of you to have a relationship? Your parents believed would be pleased if you prioritize your studies.
Parents are proud to see their children graduate first, have a job, then get happily settled. To them, every sacrifices worth it. Hence their concern should their children get into a relationship because could affect their studies. Parents especially fear for their daughters lest they get pregnant or get married before attaining a degree. Your parents trust you, yes, but not your hormones. And this may be their greatest fear.
However, if you’re already of age a degree holder, have a stable job and financially independent I’m sure they won’t be as overprotective as they are now. In fact, they’d probably get nervous should you, either if your age laps on the calendar, continue to enjoy single blessedness.
So if your parents insist that you cut off your relationship with him now , you can either trust their judgement or assert your choice.
According to my friend;
“I’m a professional with kids. My husband works abroad. Were married 15 years. One day an 18-year-old man, who’d rendered service to my family, confessed his feelings for me-saying I have the qualities he likes in a woman. I counseled him to look for unmarried ladies. However, I have this growing feeling for him too.
It’s the need for romance that usually triggers an affair. This may happen when the husband is away, as in case, or when he has become to engrossed in life he forgot he has a wife who needs his hugs and kisses.
How would you feel if your husband strikes up a friendship with a younger lady. So before physical attraction gets too difficult to resist, before your kids and your husband get wind of this brewing romance, cut it off clean. Don’t let a secret affair destroy your family and their respect for you.
You did it right by counseling him. But let that session be the first and the last. Otherwise you’re still courting danger. Tactfully tell him to stop his visits despite the services you may still need. You’re bothered because you received no assurance of forgiveness from him.
Don’t you think it’s better that he distanced himself from you? He has reasons for doing so which you should respect. Just remember that life does not end with him.
Aside from the work and studies get involved in activities to keep you occupied. Moved on. Realize your goals. Face the sun and the shadows will fall behind you. Don’t let that one incident put your life on hold.